Validation & Accidental and Intentional Growth

Throughout my life I have always struggled with validation of others…… What they though of me, what they thought about what I was doing and the list goes on.  Now looking at where I am today I can’t imagine my life if I had continued to listened to my thoughts…….. Now this also took me A LOT of therapy with one of my biggest mentors Laura Pageau. 

  • If I had of stayed in my head I would never gotten the word “IMPACTFUL” TATTOOED on my arm for everyone to see.
  • if I stayed in my head I would not been given this amazing opportunity to be the opening speaker for The birds papaya .*
  • if I had of stayed in my head I would never received the amazing messages  from other women THAT I INSPIRE THEM.

Ladies, this growth journey for me has been FULL FORCE the last couple months. I have had some of the most amazing connections with people, all because I put myself out to the world. Could you imagine if you decided to do one thing a day to become the best version of you…….. WHERE WOULD YOU BE????

      * What if you stopped telling yourself you can’t do it.

*What if you looked at all the things that brought you joy and grew from that.

* What if you put yourself first.

*What if you became selfish so everyone around you could be better.

* What if you knew your self worth, and did something you have always wanted        to do.

* What if you stopped thinking about who you want to be and focus more on who you know you don’t want to be.

To do your WHAT IF’s you need to figure out your WHY? 

  • WHY do you want to change 
  • WHY do you want to be better to yourself 
  • WHY do you wake up everyday with a purpose 
  • WHY do you want to grow 

I have recently been reading the book “ The 15 invaluable laws go growth” by John Maxwell and it has been a bit mind blowing. So I want to share something with you……….. You can decide What you are and what you need to work on. GROWTH is such a big statement and most people don’t know whereto start……… So here is a start, accidental and intentional growth.


-Plans to start tomorrow 

-Waits for growth to come 

-Learns only from mistakes 

-Depends on good luck 

-Quits early and often 

-Falls into bad habits 

-Talks big 

-Plays it safe 

-Thinks like a victim 

-Relies on Talent 

-Stops learning after graduation 


-Insists on starting today 

-Takes complete responsibility to grow 

-Often learns before mistakes 

-Relies on hard work

-Preservers long and hard 

-Fights for good habits 

-Follows through 

-Takes risks 

-Thinks like a learner 

-Relies on character 


Check mark beside the things you know you are. When you determine who you are let’s grow from that.

Here are a few things that have really resonated with me lately…………

  • Life is not happening to you, its happening for you 
  • We need to learn how to find gratitude in all aspects of our life.
  • We should never need someone else to make us happy.
  • If we are not growing we are dying 
  • Dreams are free, goals are not…… 
  • You need to be so full of self love that you never have to seek out from anyone.
  • Our choices will be our kids consequences 
  • AND MOST IMPORTANT………. Our past does not define us and our current situation is not our final destination 

These are just a few quoted from Trent Shelton, Rachel Hollis John Maxwell and so many more.

So I guess what I am trying to say is #beyoudoyou because not one person on this earth has the power to take anything from you. Life happens for us not to us. Use your struggles as growth, I agree that we are all where we are in life for a bigger reason. You just have to take the time to figure that out.  

COMMENT BELOW WHERE IN YOUR GROWTH JOURNEY YOU ARE?? Are you ready to change and how do you think you can do this?

On-The-Go PB Bites

These On-The-Go PB Bites are perfect when you’re crunched for time and need a quick grab and go item that you can feel good about.  With just the right amount of sweet and salty these little bites will satisfy all cravings.  I actually love having them with coffee for an afternoon treat.  You can make a batch of these and put them in an air tight container in the fridge or freezer.  My kids love them after school for a great snack that will keep them going till dinner time.

Author of Recipe: Gimmiesomeoven

Photo Credit: Gimmiesomeoven

The recipe calls for:

  • chocolate chips
  • toasted coconut
  • vanilla extract
  • peanut butter (I use Kraft all natural with sea salt)
  • old fashioned oats
  • honey (or agave nectar)
  • freshly ground flax seeds
  • chia seeds (optional)


  1. Stir all ingredients together in a medium bowl until thoroughly mixed. Cover and let chill in the refrigerator for half an hour.
  2. Once chilled, roll into balls of whatever size you would like. (Mine were about 1″ in diameter.) Store in an airtight container and keep refrigerated for up to 1 week.
  3. Makes about 20-25 balls.

If you’ve tried this recipe let us know what you think by leaving a comment 🙂